Saturday, September 22, 2012

Finding god

On Tuesday, when I stepped out for work as usual, little did I know that I would spend an hour in the bus and only reach the next bus-stop - the traffic was that dense. Thankfully, my boss agreed that I'd rather return and work from home than reach work at lunchtime. Besides, it being a day before Ganesh Chaturti, most pandals had already started ferrying the idols, blocking roads as a result.

Speaking of which, the years speeding by are making me less patient and tolerant with the noise during festivals. It's how you look at it, and these aren't happy sounds anyway. There are more and more Ganesh and Durga pandals mushrooming across the city during Ganpati and Navratri, louder types of bombs are invented for Diwali and the atmosphere is anything but festive in the second half of the year. People drink and dance to item numbers played by DJs, floodlights are hired to focus on the idol and lakhs are spent in decorating the pandal according to themes. Eventually, the idol is immersed into the sea with assorted paraphernalia - if this is the scene for one pandal, I can imagine what it must be like for our waters to soak up all our festive remains across the city / state / country. Year after year. Add to that all the air, sound and light pollution and you have the perfect recipe for an environmental disaster.

But who am I, a tiny speck of dust in the larger scheme of things, to think that putting forth my point is even going to be heard, let alone be understood... let alone make a difference?! Indeed, religion has its place and there are certain rituals that must be followed. But at what cost? Are there any lines drawn? The seawater has been receding; go to a seashore and take in the sight on the day following Ganpati visarjan - it's  heartbreaking to say the least. The idol that is worshipped with such pomp is painfully disintegrated - the ears, the trunk, are all over the place. Flowers, buntings, and more of such offerings float on the surface for over a kilometer and underwater life is deeply and perhaps even irreparably affected. The cost to environment is high, the damage even more and I doubt there is any 'god' in this. Surely there is a better way to celebrate the festival - one in which the original idea of bringing people together, preparing treats and distributing it among loved ones and displaying talent by way of exhibitions, plays or whatever it is that doesn't really need you to make unbearable noise.

At work yesterday, two of my colleagues and I were talking about how our festivals and their management are spiralling out of control especially in this day and age. One of them nearly lost his mind at me. He has been bringing the idol home for a few years now and immersing it after a day-and-a-half of worship. He gave me some random shit about me being too modern, misunderstanding god and religion, and having gone out of hand... to which I retorted that he was talking like a typical Indian UP guy. It was fun to hear his reply - "It's a good thing you're a girl or else I would give you a fitting answer. But I'm not that kinda person."

Bullshit.

The lesson to me is that I'd rather keep my opinion to myself and keep calm even if I have a valid point to make. Religion or even the mention of it brings out the worst in people and often, like in my colleague's case, they take it personally. It blinds the best of intelligence and it becomes impossible to have a discussion where two parties agree to disagree. Perhaps it's allright to continue like this... God has his own ways, after all!

Tuesday, September 18, 2012

Laugh like a drain

I had been looking forward to watch Barfi! and I finally did last night. As endorsed by everyone, the movie is lovely but it was one of my worst movie-watching experiences.

The row behind ours was occupied by a rather noisy family of about 8; they were more but the ladies were seated right behind us. Add to that a 3-year-old child who was least interested in the film. The troupe arrived a good ten minutes after the show had started, so they spent some time in expressing their disappointment about being late. Following that, they settled down, but they were still discussing about how a certain Gurpreet had still not reached despite starting much before they had.

Soon enough Gurpreet arrived and took her seat and then there was the mandatory round of "kahaan thi, kya hua, itni der kyun lagi" and so on. By this time, Gurpreet must have been hungry, so they pulled out their popcorn. And then some packs of wafers were heard being pulled apart. And then someone forgot to bring the juice along, so some scolding and consoling happened.

My friend and I had begun to look behind trying to silence them with the turning around itself, but to no avail. They were all looking at one of them who had received a call and was telling the caller how she was right about the movie being very good. I could take it no more, and under my definition of politeness asked them if they could do their talking during the interval. "Aap aage dekhiye na" was what I got in return! The lady who sat right behind me took it personally I guess, she kicked the back of my seat through the rest of the screening.

Three-year-old Sonu had to make his humble contribution to this cacophony. He was already running up and down the stairs as though he'd just discovered them. Seeing that my group was shushed by his brave mummy, his leash had been stretched a little longer. He stood behind me and felt my hair whilst gushing, "Kinne mast baal hain, mama!" His mama didn't say a word, and Sonu took the next step - he started pulling my hair. Yes, pulling. But looking behind and giving him a stare was useless; mama had forgotten Sonu because it was more important for her to distribute the next round of snacks. Honestly, I was more interested on focussing on the movie than shutting the crowd up. I ignored the chatter after a while and believed that at some point they would too. Thankfully, they did.

There were many scenes in the film that had the audience in splits. I was in a single-screen theatre, so I could even hear the whistles and claps during key scenes. Of course, my friendly Punjabi family gushed over Ranbir as 'sona munda' even when there was no Ranbir on the screen. However, I couldn't help but think if something was wrong with me - I didn't find myself laughing my head off. Indeed some portions in the film are sweet and you will catch yourself smiling... you might also tear up through it - I did, I admit! But none of Ranbir's Chaplinesque antics were funny to my head. Have I forgotten how to laugh... or have I outgrown slapstick humour?

I am very sensitive to the topic of special children and I was hoping I don't burst into tears whenever they showed Priyanka's or Ranbir's helplessness or ignorance or unawareness. A spoiler maybe, but the rolling credits have an entire sequence on special children and I just could not watch it.

All in all Barfi! is a beautiful film although it has some glaring flaws. Do watch it if you haven't already - Ranbir, Ileana, Priyanka, Saurab Shukla, Rupa Ganguly and every other actor with even the shortest of screen time are so impressive. And if your hands aren't full with the imagery and performances, you have the music as an added takeaway!

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Hello and welcome to The Open Book.

Here's where I'll share my experiences, learnings, thoughts, pictures, perhaps a recipe...?

A little about myself. I'm your average Jane. I work Monday to Friday in a South Mumbai office. I'm short-sighted, and I like to cut my hair at a very FANCY place. My style oscillates between quirky and kurtas, though I love salwar kameezes and beautiful dupattas are my fashion weakness. If I could, I'd walk about barefoot. I like shoes like any other girl, but there's a sense of freedom in wearing no footwear at all.

I love to travel, talk to people from different regions and soak up diverse cultures. I love food, I love little stories connected to food, I love rituals around food. I like to cook and although I'm vegetarian, I try and adapt recipes to the ingredients I have at hand.

I'm a bit of a geek and I believe it is imperative that we learn how to fix things ourselves around the house. It's fun and it makes us independent. I'd love to learn carpentry, plumbing, electrical works and so on. I also enjoy embroidery and working on the sewing machine; I even learnt how to stitch my own clothes in college! It's come in handy on several occasions even though I'm not a regular.

Of the 10 people I meet, I end up disliking 9. That makes me rather unpopular with a lot of people. But every one of those 10 people I really, really like, have contributed in making my world a beautiful place to live in. They've seen me through my worst, stood by me, whacked me for my wrongdoings yet brought me out of a mess... yes, and I'm glad I didn't care about the rest of the 9!

Yeah, I mentioned mess and wrongdoings. I also mentioned experiences and learnings. That pretty much explains why I call this The Open Book. You should be prepared to read it... :)

You'll know more about my friends, loves, peeves in the posts to come. I'd love to know your thoughts... so feel free to key in your comments.

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